I got a really neat compliment recently. I was told by someone who has known me for over 27 years that I am a kind, loyal, caring, nice person and a very good friend. Seriously?  WOW! I almost started crying! It’s nice hear things like that, especially if you are feeling down.  My friendships are just about the most important thing to me, outside my very small family.  It’s so awesome to know that people appreciate me and my friendship as much as I appreciate them.

She DOES think I need to get angrier at other asshole friends though.

In regards to anger (not sadness or disappointment, but anger), 99.5% of the time, it’s just not worth it. Don’t get me wrong, I get pissed-off! No doubt about it, I’m human, but I do my best to not hold on to that anger overnight (at the most, a couple of days!). I can honestly say, there are only three people in my life I’ve not forgiven for various things. Two are old bosses and one is a relative. At least those are the only three I can come-up with right now!

The best way to describe it is I do my best to put myself into the other person’s position and look at the intent (as far as I can tell).  Everyone has bad days and says things they don’t mean. People have off days. I posted about  a month ago that I got a horrible haircut, now- am I going to be upset by that and yell and never go back to my hairdresser again? Of course not!!!  Shit happens. She didn’t do it on purpose!  We ALL should try and take breath and do that more often.

I’m not going to knowingly be a doormat, but I will be as understanding as I can..... it might take a day or two, but I do get past things.

Although, to be honest, rather than get mad, I’m far more likely to think I’ve done something wrong and they’re angry at ME and then I’ll feel horrible. I need to work on that! 😬 Better than rage though!!

Anyway, as corny as it sounds: don’t go to bed angry at anyone if you can help it and try to see things from the other persons point of view. You’ll be happier.